Baba Jay was busy speaking through his hands and Pastor too was interpreting and
was still casting glances at his wife.
I was not concentrating… I kept looking at the way Pastor and his wife were behaving
like teenagers on heat.
I suddenly noticed that Baba Jay’s wife had placed her hands on the back on her
husband, Baba Jay and she seems so content. You can cut the love in the air with a
knife, the love was so thick.
I can’t remember the last time I experience such a love in my life.
I didn’t know when I burst into tears again. Oh, I have made a marital blunder.
Pastor asked me, why are you crying?…
I blurted out: I am tired of being normal. I am tired of being the normal wife….
I want to be my husband’s baby again. I don’t want to go through life not knowing
the true meaning of love in marriage.
I kept on wailing…. Pastor’s wife wanted to come and console me but I was not the
only one who suddenly realized that our normality had robbed us of the joy in
So I was not the only one crying. Two other sisters were crying too…
Baba Jay signaled with his hands and Pastor interpreted, “it is normal to see many
unhappy couples. I sit at the roundabout and I see them drive past with sorrow in
I see women who are only in the man’s house because of children.
I see men who look as if they are in prison.
It is normal to hear of couple’s fight, quarrel, divorce because majority of this world
are filled with normal people.
Anytime I tell people that in my over twenty years of marriage, I have never had a
quarrel with my wife, it sounds like a lie or impossibility.
The reason people are surprised and don’t believe me, is because our case is not
normal. We are an abnormal couple.
From the day your Pastor met with me, and agree to become abnormal, was the day
his broken home started getting healed.
It takes one abnormal person to covert a normal marriage to an abnormal one.
Baba Jay paused…
In the process of Baba Jay speaking, we had stopped crying and started writing…..
Pastor picked up from there and said,
My brethren, Baba Jay is dumb, he can’t speak, so he has never spoken any negative
word to his wife for over twenty years….
His pretty wife is blind, she has not seen anything bad about her husband in over
Can I be bold to tell you today, that the first lesson you will learn today is the first
point Baba Jay gave us.
TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE… BE WILLING TO BE ABNORMALLY NORMAL.
Be willing to do things normal husbands won’t do, be willing to do things normal
wives won’t do.
Be willing to go the extra mile because of your marriage. Be willing to do things that
other normal people with normal marriage problems will see as abnormal.
Abnormal love is allowed.
Abnormal sacrifice is allowed.
Abnormal care is allowed.
Abnormal romance is allowed.
By all means please note, it is perfectly normal to be abnormal in marriage.
Hmmmm. I had been concentrating seriously I had not noticed that one of the men
in our group actually came with his wife and they were both crying and hugging
The wife was saying that she had never allowed her husband to hug her in public
because she felt it was odd but now, she knows better… she was apologizing to her
husband for being normal…
Hmmmm. I just hope I can be abnormal oooo.
Just then I heard a voice speak, the sound was like music to my ears…..
Oh, this voice can really turn me to abnormal too….
Author: Femi Oluyamoju