THE DUMB AND THE BLIND
The ground didn’t open and I had to smile as my reply to the beggar’s greetings.
Baba Jay is the dumb beggar at the popular roundabout in our area. Everyone knows
him. I never knew he was married.
He has a funny animal-like sound of calling your attention. I could tell he was calling
me because he kept waving at me.
His wife is a very pretty petite lady. The way he held her into the house was
adorable. It made me hungry for loving cuddles.
Pastor called our attention as the lecture commences.
He started, “I told you all that I got some verses from that man in the mountain
where I went to pray before landing in the hospital. And I made up my mind that I
want my marriage to work.
I want to congratulate you all for coming. Your coming here shows that you want
your marriage to work like I did.
I smiled, if only Pastor knew I am only here to while away the time from that
Pastor continued his story, looking lovingly at his wife,
I decided to spend some days studying the bible, seeking for answers on how to save
After one hour of fruitless search, I stood up and went to my window… lo and
behold, I looked down and I saw this lovely couple. Baba Jay was holding his wife to
himself. She was feeding him. Their twenty-two year old daughter was making jest of
I could see their happiness and I was drawn to their love. I hurriedly changed my
cloth and went down to speak with them.
I discovered that he was dumb and she was blind. I had to speak to him through his
daughter. He uses sign language and she interpret in English.
I learnt that for their twenty-four years of marriage, he had never raised his voice to
his wife and she had never complained.
The daughter told me that she had never seen her parents quarrel. Not even once.
Because he can’t speak and she can’t see. They are not able to convey any anger. And
they must have patience to deal with one another.
Pastor continued speaking….
I spent almost three hours receiving lectures on how to be blind and dumb in
marriage. The lecture that day started the sweetness of our marriage.
He stopped looking at his wife, redirected his gaze to us and told us to bring out our
note pads as he teaches us how to live without complaining nor saying negative
My respect for this man “Baba Jay” changed. A dumb man without master’s degree,
no big education, yet he lived with a woman now for over two decades and no
Baba Jay started teaching us with sign language while Pastor was interpreting the
signs in English.
Pastor Emma had learnt sign language in order to communicate with Baba Jay.
Come and see us oooo, as we were writing with so much passion as if the professor
of electrodynamics was lecturing.
All our attention was drawn to the dumb man full of marital wisdom….
Point one was totally confusing. He said,
MARRIAGE WILL NEVER WORK IF THE TWO PARTNERS ARE NORMAL….
If this man thinks he can release the demon of deaf and dumb into my life, he must
I looked at Pastor and his wife staring at themselves again… are they not tired of
looking at themselves? These guys are truly abnormal.
Isn’t it stupid to be smiling at your husband every time like teenagers on heat…?
They are truly not normal.
But how come normal people are here writing like eager students and learning from
the abnormal ones.
Very truly, their abnormalities are turning our normality into normal malnormal
What am I saying…? am I normal?
Author: Femi Oluyamoju